Saturday, May 2, 2009

Taking The Day Off

When I was growing up Sunday was a work around the house day. I was raised in a SDA family and Friday night sundown to Saturday night sundown we did not do any work of any kind at all. We didn't shop, we didn't do laundry, we didn't even fill the car with gas. We went to church, hung out with family and napped. Actually not a bad way to spend a day -- although it was a very very legalistic environment.

Sunday was a different story. My mom was a single working mom and rose early on Sunday and got right to it. Laundry. Yard work. Errands. Projects around the house. Gardening (not the same thing as yard work -- trust me).

I found out as an adult that my grandmother would actually show up on Sunday mornings and say , "Ok, what are we doing today?" or worse, "Today we are going to......" and she would have some big project for my mom to do IN OUR HOUSE. And my mom would just do it (this is obviously a whole 'nother post).

Sadly I have inherited the work-like-a-dog-around-the-house-on-the-weekend mentality. Although I've mellowed a bit. I'm not an SDA now, so Saturday, like many people, is my day to do stuff around the house.

Yesterday I had a wonderful girl's day out in Atlanta with a friend and came home to a house that looked worse than usual.

So of course I hopped out of bed this morning, even though I was feeling exhausted and kind of yucky, and tried to get right at it. I made this ridiculous, impossible to do list and immediately felt overwhelmed. I wanted a nap. I wanted to sit on the deck and read a book. I wanted to sew, and blog and just chill. All day.

And then I realized something. I can do that. I can totally take the day off. I can lounge, read, sew, blog, sleep. And it's all going to be here tomorrow. And the world isn't going to end. In fact, the world is probably going to be a better place.

13 comments:

Anna Whiston-Donaldson said...

Oh yes! I recently hear that "self-care" is a spiritual discipline and is just as important as others. So go for it! I had 2 kids' games at 8 am today, so a nap is in my future.

Rebecca said...

Good for you! I'm terrible at being productive on the weekends. My husband on the other hand is exactly like you and your mom, weekends are house project days to him. I always have to remind him that he can relax a little sometimes and just veg on the couch.

But I know how hard that is when there is so much to get done around the house. It's really never ending.

I hope you have a great RELAXING day off. You deserve it.

Ducky said...

And you will be a better person!

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

What a concept.

furiousBall said...

day off? hmm... i don't get it. what are those again?

Irene said...

Isn't that a great thing to realize? You will subsequently feel just the least amount of guilt, but just ignore that, You will deal wit those things in the end anyway. Nobody else is going to do them for you,after all.

shrink on the couch said...

And noone will show up ordering you up and at 'em -- hooray for giving yourself the day off!

Kate Coveny Hood said...

Excellent choice! The mess is always there for me - it reappears ten minutes after I clean up - so I tend to get to it when I get to it. I may be a slob now - but at least I'm very zen about it.

CSquaredPlus3 said...

It's great being a "grown-up". I often forget I'm one and don't "have to" do too many things.

I hope you had a nice Saturday doing exactly what you felt like doing (or not) in the moment. :-)

the mama bird diaries said...

I'm like that too. I find it hard to relax when there is so much to get done.

jacquie said...

so true...hard to make it happen sometimes though...in my family if you are exhausted and sore at the end of the day it was a good day. hard to let go of that even when i want to.

Jennifer S said...

Exactly.

But you're kinda screwed if your mom moves to town.

Jennifer S said...

So you should enjoy it now, while it lasts. :-)

Okay, I'll stop.